Alan Gassman, a prominent Florida attorney, took my capstone program Creativity and Personal Mastery a few years ago. Shortly thereafter he invited me to Tampa to meet some of his clients. He gave me a bunch of books that had an impact on him and among them was an inconspicuous paperback with a …
On Friendships: Don’t Make the Mistake I Made
I made a bunch of phone calls this week but reached few of the persons I wanted to. Companies are slowing down and executives are more concerned with holiday plans than business. My wife is in California visiting our daughter and I am holding the fort in New York looking after my mother-in-law …
This Illusion is Wrecking your Life!
There is an illusion that you hold on to though your own experience shows that it is just that – an illusion. You know it, but you behave as if it were not true. And much suffering results from this. What is this delusion that holds you in thrall? It is the notion that you are one single …
Stop Struggling. *Allow* it to happen.
Here is how most of us live life. We set a goal for ourselves and then take appropriate action to reach that goal. When things do not go our way, we work harder. We put our ‘nose to the grindstone’ and try to remember that ‘when the going gets tough, the tough get going.’ Our lives are full …
How to Straighten Out your Life
We were in Paris this summer and my wife, being a big Monet fan, dragged me to Giverny. Monet was one of those rare painters who actually made enough money during his lifetime to live a comfortable, even luxurious, life. Here is what his estate in Giverny looks like and this is a tiny part of …
If I Could Just Get Her or Him to Change, Then Things Would be OK
I have a number of personal coaching clients and one theme has surfaced many times. Come to think of it, it is also prevalent in the lives of friends and relatives. A busy attorney is scaling new professional heights but his son is investigating controlled substances and has had several brushes …
You are not going anywhere!
I am a public speaker and I frequently used the example of a hamster on a wheel to illustrate our tendency to get caught up in frantic activity while going nowhere. Virtually everybody could relate to the example. In fact, hamster-on-a-wheel has become shorthand for a meaningless life filled with …
When everything goes wrong and it’s every day
I am reading a moving, sad-funny-inspirational account of someone who hit rock-bottom and then bounced back. Of course, the depth that he reached does not compare to the really destitute in a third world country, but let that pass for now. He was a 52-year-old attorney whose practice was …
What do people really think of you?
My capstone program – Creativity and Personal Mastery – gives you very powerful tools that will absolutely transform your life for the better. An early assignment, before we meet for the first time, calls for admitted participants to list what they would like to get from it. A surprisingly large …