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As human beings we are torn. We want more stuff, better relationships, richer experiences and to be known and appreciated and applauded. Our insecurities are legion and they hound us into frenetic activity as we try to quiet the shrieking, howling feverish monkey of our mind.

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The Real Reason You Get Angry and Fearful

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I have fielded many calls in the recent past from persons in the grip of strong emotions, primarily anger and fear.

Do you become angry and afraid? Have you ever wondered why?

Steve had a rough day at work. His boss asked him to do a report all over again even though he had scrupulously adhered to the guidelines he had been given. The boss had changed his mind about what he needed. Instead of acknowledging this and apologizing he blamed Steve for not giving him what he now wanted. The HR clerk called to let him know that his expenses would not be reimbursed. True, he had stayed at a more expensive hotel than permitted but had assumed that he could cover the extra charges with personal funds. Not so. The clerk said there would be no reimbursement. He could probably get this reversed by going up the HR chain but it would take up time he did not have and use up relationship capital he wanted to conserve. As he entered his house he felt something under his foot and heard an ominous crack. His son’s brand new Gameboy console had just broken. He had spoken to him many, many times about the inadvisability of leaving stuff around. Something snapped. He took the stairs two at a time with flames shooting from his eyes. He was going to have a word with his son.

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The World has Ended. Now What do I Do?

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She called me right after the event. I could not see her but I knew her eyes were red with weeping. “I am so distraught, Professor Rao,” she cried. “My stomach is tied up in knots. I cannot think or work or eat. I feel as if Freddie Kreuger has slipped into my house.”

And then there is my long time handyman, someone I have used for years who always delivers great service at reasonable price. “Why don’t they recognize that he won? This pointless obstructionism simply ensures that we will get nothing done.” His face was lined with anger and frustration.

The 2016 Presidential election in the US has shaken up the country like no other in a century.

Yet again a presidential candidate has won the popular vote and lost the presidency.

There is hand wringing and jubilation and deathly fear and talk of the apocalypse.

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The Little Known Secret to Achieving Incredible Success

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I made a mistake when I was young.

It took me decades to recognize that I had made the mistake.

I will do what I can to make sure that you don’t make the same error.

What was that mistake?

I’ll tell you. But first some background.

Buddhist sages have exhorted lay followers to practice Dharma and consciously follow a spiritual path. The Indian sage Shankara spoke about the endless striving after pleasure, sex and wealth and how this led persons astray and away from the path of genuine happiness.

St. Timothy beseeched everyone to flee youthful passions, pursue righteousness and call on the Lord from a pure heart.

My mother knew about all of them and more and tried hard to get me to read works by the Great Masters and live by their words.

I wasn’t having any of it.

I wanted ‘success’ now. Far from fleeing youthful pleasure, I indulged to the hilt. And I continued to batter my head on brick walls until I realized a great truth.

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Donald Trump, Abraham Lincoln, Dishonest Politicians and a Lesson For You!

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Reading the newspaper each day is a surreal experience. Doubtless you feel you have entered The Looking Glass World.

But there is a lesson here for you. A lesson that will serve you well in business and in life.

Wouldn’t it be wonderful if we had a noble politician to vote for?

A high-principled one who would instinctively and always do the right thing?

Perhaps someone like Abraham Lincoln?

Unfortunately it turns out that Honest Abe “…dissembled, waffled, told racist stories and consorted with corrupt politicians.” He also planned dirty tricks to counteract his opponent’s antics including a scheme to harvest large numbers of illegal votes. Read more about this in an article by Garry Wills in the October 5, 1992 issue of Time magazine.

Fast forward to today and the New York Times reports that many Republicans are whipsawed “between two unpalatable options: alienating much of their party’s base, or standing behind a nominee who is unacceptable to most mainstream voters.”

Donald Trump has set new records for mendacity and the House Speaker, Paul Ryan, is giving a celebrated imitation of a human pretzel as he tries to “explain” his position.

I have some advice for all these torn politicians.

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No, You DON’T Know, Dummy! And That is Why You Suffer!!

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Why you keep doing stuff that harms you and you know it harms you.

He was a diligent student. He did all the exercises and assignments in my program and
benefited greatly. And one day he approached me about a serious problem he had. He was an
alcoholic. He had kicked the habit numerous times but, somehow, he always relapsed.

“I know its bad for me,” he said. “I know it very clearly but I just can’t stop myself.
Can you help me?”

And I thought about the numerous persons I know who have participated in Creativity and
Personal Mastery over the decades who have expressed something similar to me.

I have my own thorns. I ‘know’ that salty Indian snacks are bad for me but I indulge anyway.

How about you? Are there things you do that you clearly ‘know’ are not in your best interest?
Like checking email compulsively? Or being driven by overweening ambition? Like ignoring your
family while you climb your career ladder?

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